Anger Management !!!

As the carpenter went home after shutting down his workshop, a black poisonous cobra entered his workshop.   The cobra was hungry & hoped to find its supper lurking somewhere within. It slithered from one end to another & finally bumped into an axe & got very slightly injured.

In anger & revenge, the snake bit the axe with full force. What could a bite do to a metallic axe?  Instead the cobra 's mouth started bleeding.  Out of fury & arrogance, the cobra tried it's best to strangle & kill the object that was causing it pain by wrapping itself around the axe.

The next day when the carpenter opened the workshop, he found a dead cobra wrapped around the axe blades.

This story is an eye opener and could help us take some good decisions

The cobra didn't die because of someone else's fault but faced these consequences merely because of it's own anger & wrath. 

Sometimes when angry, we try to cause harm to others but as the time passes by, we realise that we have caused more harm to ourselves.

For a happy life, it's best we should ignore & overlook things, people, incidents, affairs & matters.

It is not necessary that we show a reaction to everything. Step back & ask yourself if the matter is really worth responding to .
We all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.  Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate ?   

Anger becomes a problem only when you don't manage it in a healthy way –

1. Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

1. Once you're calm, express your anger

As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but non confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

1. Get some exercise

Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.

1. Take a timeout

Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.

1. Identify possible solutions

Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand.  Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.

Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret, hurts those around you or is taking a toll on your professional / personal relationships.

Anger isn't always bad, but it must be handled appropriately.