WE SEE THINGS NOT THE WAY THEY ARE BUT THE WAY WE ARE - MUST READ !

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Our minds are constantly trying to make sense of our world, forming judgements and opinions about every situation, event, interaction. Those judgements and opinions will be affected by our central or core belief system. It is as though we are looking at the world through distorted or coloured lenses – and everyone has their own personal prescription or colour for their glasses.

There is a legend about a wise man who was sitting outside his village. A traveler came up and asked him, "What kind of people live in this village, because I am looking to move from my present one?"

The wise man asked, "What kind of people live where you want to move from?"

The man said, "They are mean, cruel, rude." The wise man replied, "The same kind of people live in this village too."

After some time another traveler came by and asked the same question and the wise man asked him, "What kind of people live where you want to move from?"

And the traveler replied, "The people are very kind, courteous, polite and good."

The wise man said, "You will find the same kind of people here too."

What is the moral of the story?

Generally we see the world not the way it is but the way we are. Most of the time, other people's behavior is a reaction to our own.

So it seems that a just a few moments' thinking time can prime you to perform either better or worse than normal at both mental and physical tasks.

Within any meeting of people all the individuals will of course have their own belief system, and will therefore have different perspectives – see and think about things differently - and this will affect the way these individuals interact with each other. We can learn to be more aware of how our own belief system affects us, and consider how others might see the same situation quite differently. Wise Mind is the balanced part of us that comprises our knowledge and intuition, where thinking mind and emotion mind come together, the part of us that just “knows”, that inner truth:

Seeing different perspectives will help to reduce distressing emotions, help us feel more confident, enable us to be more understanding and empathic, and improve communication and relationships.

As we learn to challenge our unhelpful thoughts and biased perspectives, and see things in a more balanced and realistic way, so we will discover that situations and people can be different to how we usually interpret things, which can lead us to modify our core belief system, and therefore bring about lasting positive change.