Making Positive Change:

Instead of saying "I don't know"

Say "I'll find out". 

Instead of seeing a problem for every answer,
Try seeing an answer for every problem 

Instead of saying "That's not my job",
See what has to be done and do it. 

Instead of making promises,
Make commitments 

Instead of looking at what can't be done,
Look at what can be done 

When a mistake is made, instead of saying "It wasn't my fault"
Say "I was wrong". 

Instead of side-stepping most issues,
Try making decisions 

Instead of saying "I'm not as bad as a lot of others",
Say "I'm good, but not as good as I can be". 

Instead of saying "That's the way it has always been done",
Say "There ought to be a better way". 

Instead of saying "It may be possible, but it's too difficult",
Say "It may be difficult but it's not impossible". 

Give it a try !

Don't disown your future, own it. You make your life, take it as a movie set if you like; you are the director, the main actor and the editor. How do you want the story to ensue?

Ask yourself those fundamental questions:

What am I like?
What do I want to be like?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What do I need?
What do I want?
Who could help me?
What is my plan?

Know that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. Now is an opportunity to reflect and act upon those thoughts. Changing is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

Until next time,
be conscious, flexible in your approach and make yourself happy !

How Much Fight Is Within You:

"All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you." - Walt Disney

Walt Disney, who often struggled just to feed himself, had to declare bankruptcy in 1920. In 1923, he made his way to Hollywood with just $40 in his pocket. $40 and a sketchbook!

In 1928 Walt and a few friends by the names Mickey and Minnie, took the world by storm in "Steamboat Willie". Unsuspecting movie viewers were witnessing the birth of a legend! The rest is most definitely Entertainment History.

Can you imagine the flack Walt Disney must have caught when penniless, he'd sit in the corner sketching?!  No doubt he was called everything from a dreamer to a loser. Fortunately, he knew that it's not the name they call you that matters. It's the name you answer to that counts.

*** "If you can dream it, you can do it. Always remember that this whole thing was started with a dream and a mouse." - Walt Disney

The creator of an absolute empire was knocked down more than once, but he came out a winner because he never stayed down.

How about you?

How much fight is in you? Has life knocked you around - maybe even knocked you down? Are you on the ground, cowering in the corner or are you up fighting back with all that's in you?

The fight isn't over until someone's knocked out or gives up. Instead of throwing in the towel, use it to slap life on the butt with a resounding snap!

*** "It's kind of fun to do the impossible." - Walt Disney

Go do something impossible!

Far too many people have dreams they have given up on. We often blame others or outside circumstances for the fact we are not accomplishing all we desire. Granted, there may be some outside circumstances that create real limitations. However, in many cases we may be using imagined limitations as an excuse to not move forward. It can be easier to blame other people and situations as the reason we have not achieved our potential than to walk through the fear of the unknown.

Limitations appear in many ways. Experience. Money. Time. Education. You name it, it is bound to be there. One of the greatest limitations is that of the mind. Determine which obstacles are real and which ones are imagined. Which excuses have been used over and over so that you will not have to face the fear of the unknown? Once you identify your real and imagined limitations, you will be able to work with them and move forward.

Granted, there is a lot that can dampen our spirits if we allow it. However, there are many opportunities to achieve your dreams if you are willing to step outside of your comfort zone, put effort into your vision and move forward little by little.

In order to break through your boundaries you must first realize what they are. Knowing what they are allows you to take action. Look for others who may have had similar roadblocks. Find out what they did to move forward. In their strategy may be your formula for success.

Are you secretly wishing you would do something with your life other than what you are doing, but fear holds you back? If you ask most people what their greatest regret is, more times than not they will say it is what they didn't do rather than what they did.

One of the greatest gifts we can give to others and ourselves is to unlock the talents we have been blessed with and to have the courage to use them. Ask yourself, "How well do I use my gifts to contribute to the well-being of myself and others?"

Will your life be filled with regrets or will it be filled with passion?

Little Boy's Love For His Family:

I am sure you have read this story earlier as it was doing the rounds for quite some time.  However, the many times I read it, it brings fresh tears to my eyes !  A very touching and heart breaking story of an child so innocent.  Do read this story again and share with all those whom you can reach !  

I was walking around in a Big Bazar store making shopping, when I saw a Cashier talking to a boy couldn’t have been more than 5 or 6 years old. The Cashier said, "I’m sorry, but you don’t have enough money to buy this doll." Then the little boy turned to me and asked, "Uncle, are you sure I don’t have enough money?"

I counted his cash and replied, "You know that you don’t have enough money to buy the doll, my dear." The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand. Finally, I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give this doll to. "It’s the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much . I wanted to Gift her for her Birthday. I have to give the doll to my mommy so that she can give it to my sister when she goes there." His eyes were so sad while saying this.

"My Sister has gone to be with God. Daddy says that Mommy is going to see God very soon too, so I thought that she could take the doll with her to give it to my sister." My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at me and said, "I told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until I come back from the mall." Then he showed me a very nice photo of him, where he was laughing. He then told me "I want mommy to take my picture with her so my sister won’t forget me, I love my mommy and I wish she doesn’t have to leave me, but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister."

Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly. I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. "Suppose we check again, just in case you do have enough money for the doll?" He said, "OK, I hope I do have enough." I added some of my money to his with out him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for the doll and even some spare money.

The little boy said, "Thank you God for giving me enough money!" Then he looked at me and added, "I asked last night before I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll, so that mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me! I also wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn’t dare to ask God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and a white rose. My mommy loves white roses."

I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started. I couldn’t get the little boy out of my mind. Then I remembered a local news paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl. The little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical state.

The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the life sustaining machine, because the young woman would not be able to recover from the coma. Was this the family of the little boy? Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the news paper that the young woman had passed away. I couldn’t stop myself. I bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home where the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make last wishes before her burial. She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest. I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life had been changed for ever…

The love that the little boy had for his mother and his sister is still, to this day, hard to imagine. And in a fraction of a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away from him…

Respect life, Follow and Obey Rules. Don’t make anyone else to pay and bear for your mistakes. Do not make the mistakes which cost others something that can never be replaced. Always have a giving hand and extend your help to those in need and sorrow.

Don't Be Rash Lest You Crash

The very mention of rules makes some people rebel but traffic safety rules can be ignored at one's own peril. What is worse, the violators might end up harming not just themselves but law-abiding persons as well. A conscientious driver might be observing every rule under the book but if the driver behind him didn't bother with traffic niceties, he might add to the accident victims' tally.

If you were among the millions who drive to work every day, you would probably grimace with recognition. With traffic congestion getting worse each year in the wake of constant growth in vehicle ownership, all kinds of people throng the roads and your daily slog could easily put your life at risk. Driving under such circumstances could be stressful -even making us physically ill.

More Commuting Hours

According to the Road Information Program, average commuting hours has been steadily increasing in practically every country.

Some results of such commuter combat are predictable. Reckless driving-sometimes in the form of so-called road rage-is often spurred by traffic frustrations. So cool-headed commuting is essential to safeguard precious lives on the road.

Alertness Is The Key

Obeying traffic safety regulations often makes the difference between life and death on the highway. Only if you are alert while driving can you live to see another day. The thumb rule is to exercise tolerance and respect other commuters' rights. Speed might thrill but it kills more often.

Driving is a test of concentration. Don't drive if you are drunk or are feeling sleepy. Don't get lost in the music or mobile in your vehicle. Keep a safe distance from the vehicle ahead of you as you could collide if the other driver is forced to apply sudden brakes. Also keep away from parked cars.

Obey signs and signals. Seat belts are meant to be used. Don't indulge a minor by letting him drive. Children should play in a safe place away from the street. Use standard helmets while driving two-wheelers and don't carry more than one adult pillion rider. Carrying persons on the bonnet of a motor vehicle is not done. No person should be allowed to stand or sit in a manner, which would hamper the driver.

While walking, look all ways before crossing the street. When there is no pavement, walk on the left facing traffic.

So, the next time you feel like romancing speed, pause to think. A lot hinges on your decision as each drop makes an ocean.

 

Making Positive Changes !!!

Instead of saying "I don't know"

Say "I'll find out". 

Instead of seeing a problem for every answer,
Try seeing an answer for every problem 

Instead of saying "That's not my job",
See what has to be done and do it. 

Instead of making promises,
Make commitments 

Instead of looking at what can't be done,
Look at what can be done 

When a mistake is made, instead of saying "It wasn't my fault"
Say "I was wrong". 

Instead of side-stepping most issues,
Try making decisions 

Instead of saying "I'm not as bad as a lot of others",
Say "I'm good, but not as good as I can be". 

Instead of saying "That's the way it has always been done",
Say "There ought to be a better way". 

Instead of saying "It may be possible, but it's too difficult",
Say "It may be difficult but it's not impossible". 

Give it a try !

Don't disown your future, own it. You make your life, take it as a movie set if you like; you are the director, the main actor and the editor. How do you want the story to ensue?

Ask yourself those fundamental questions:

What am I like?
What do I want to be like?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What do I need?
What do I want?
Who could help me?
What is my plan?

Know that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. Now is an opportunity to reflect and act upon those thoughts. Changing is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

Until next time,
be conscious, flexible in your approach and make yourself happy !

How Much Fight Is In You?

"All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you." - Walt Disney

Walt Disney, who often struggled just to feed himself, had to declare bankruptcy in 1920. In 1923, he made his way to Hollywood with just $40 in his pocket. $40 and a sketchbook!

In 1928 Walt and a few friends by the names Mickey and Minnie, took the world by storm in "Steamboat Willie". Unsuspecting movie viewers were witnessing the birth of a legend! The rest is most definitely Entertainment History.

Can you imagine the flack Walt Disney must have caught when penniless, he'd sit in the corner sketching?!  No doubt he was called everything from a dreamer to a loser. Fortunately, he knew that it's not the name they call you that matters. It's the name you answer to that counts.

*** "If you can dream it, you can do it. Always remember that this whole thing was started with a dream and a mouse." - Walt Disney

The creator of an absolute empire was knocked down more than once, but he came out a winner because he never stayed down.

How about you?

How much fight is in you? Has life knocked you around - maybe even knocked you down? Are you on the ground, cowering in the corner or are you up fighting back with all that's in you?

The fight isn't over until someone's knocked out or gives up. Instead of throwing in the towel, use it to slap life on the butt with a resounding snap!

*** "It's kind of fun to do the impossible." - Walt Disney

Go do something impossible!

Far too many people have dreams they have given up on. We often blame others or outside circumstances for the fact we are not accomplishing all we desire. Granted, there may be some outside circumstances that create real limitations. However, in many cases we may be using imagined limitations as an excuse to not move forward. It can be easier to blame other people and situations as the reason we have not achieved our potential than to walk through the fear of the unknown.

Limitations appear in many ways. Experience. Money. Time. Education. You name it, it is bound to be there. One of the greatest limitations is that of the mind. Determine which obstacles are real and which ones are imagined. Which excuses have been used over and over so that you will not have to face the fear of the unknown? Once you identify your real and imagined limitations, you will be able to work with them and move forward.

Granted, there is a lot that can dampen our spirits if we allow it. However, there are many opportunities to achieve your dreams if you are willing to step outside of your comfort zone, put effort into your vision and move forward little by little.

In order to break through your boundaries you must first realize what they are. Knowing what they are allows you to take action. Look for others who may have had similar roadblocks. Find out what they did to move forward. In their strategy may be your formula for success.

Are you secretly wishing you would do something with your life other than what you are doing, but fear holds you back? If you ask most people what their greatest regret is, more times than not they will say it is what they didn't do rather than what they did.

One of the greatest gifts we can give to others and ourselves is to unlock the talents we have been blessed with and to have the courage to use them. Ask yourself, "How well do I use my gifts to contribute to the well-being of myself and others?"

Will your life be filled with regrets or will it be filled with passion?

Unity is Strength !!!

Once upon a time, there was a flock of doves that flew in search of food led by their king. One day, they had flown a long distance and were very tired. The dove king encouraged them to fly a little further. The smallest dove picked up speed and found some rice scattered beneath a banyan tree. So all the doves landed and began to eat.

Suddenly a net fell over them and they were all trapped. They saw a hunter approaching carrying a huge club. The doves desperately fluttered their wings trying to get out, but to no avail. The king had an idea. He advised all the doves to fly up together carrying the net with them. He said that there was strength in unity.

Each dove picked up a portion of the net and together they flew off carrying the net with them. The hunter looked up in astonishment. He tried to follow them, but they were flying high over hills and valleys. They flew to a hill near a city of temples where there lived a mouse who could help them. He was a faithful friend of the dove king.

When the mouse heard the loud noise of their approach, he went into hiding. The dove king gently called out to him and then the mouse was happy to see him. The dove king explained that they had been caught in a trap and needed the mouse’s help to gnaw at the net with his teeth and set them free.

The mouse agreed saying that he would set the king free first. The king insisted that he first free his subjects and the king last. The mouse understood the king’s feelings and complied with his wishes. He began to cut the net and one by one all the doves were freed including the dove king.

They all thanked the mouse and flew away together, united in their strength.

When you work together, you are stronger.

Are You the Motivator !

We're all aware of how important teamwork is and how an inspired team, working together toward a clearly defined goal, can accomplish tremendous results. But how do you get all co-workers to pull together and realize they are a vital link in a much bigger picture?

Remember that individuals make a team. Individual contributions add up to the greatter whole. Ask for the team's ideas and suggestions and base specific goals on these. Be sure each team member understands his/her role in the overall plan.

Communicate clearly. Present information in an organized, easy-to-follow way. Make it clear; communication within the group is a two-way process. Acknowledge everyone's thoughts, ideas and fears equally. And above all, be honest.

Be a good example. Maintain firm, fair and clearly understood standards. Tackle unpleasant tasks as soon as possible. If criticism is necessary, make it constructive. Keep emotions in check.

Delegate. No one can do everything. Understand which jobs don't need your personal touch and trust them to someone else. Match jobs to skills and abilities, providing necessary training and encouragement. Provide goals and guidelines.

Accept change. Discuss changes - also suggested changes - with your team thoroughly. Reassure team players that the changes are positive, clearly pointing out the benefits. Encourage all members to express their feelings about what's happening and tend to wounded egos appropriately.

Praise with specifics. Focus on performance & behavior and not on the person. Do it regularly and in a timely fashion.

भगवान् सब अछा ही करता है:

एक व्यक्ति एक दिन बिना बताए काम पर नहीं गया.....
मालिक ने,सोचा इस कि तन्खाह बढ़ा दी जाये तो यह
और दिल्चसपी से काम करेगा.....
और उसकी तन्खाह बढ़ा दी....
अगली बार जब उसको तन्खाह से ज़्यादा पैसे दिये
तो वह कुछ नही बोला चुपचाप पैसे रख लिये.....
कुछ महीनों बाद वह फिर ग़ैर हाज़िर हो गया......
मालिक को बहुत ग़ुस्सा आया.....
सोचा इसकी तन्खाह बढ़ाने का क्या फायदा हुआ
यह नहीं सुधरेगाऔर उस ने बढ़ी हुई
तन्खाह कम कर दी और इस बार उसको पहले वाली ही
तन्खाह दी......
वह इस बार भी चुपचाप ही रहा और
ज़बान से कुछ ना बोला....
तब मालिक को बड़ा ताज्जुब हुआ....
उसने उससे पूछा कि जब मैने तुम्हारे ग़ैरहाज़िर होने के बाद तुम्हारी तन्खाह बढा कर दी तुम कुछ नही बोले और आज तुम्हारी ग़ैर हाज़री पर तन्खाह
कम कर के दी फिर भी खामोश ही रहे.....!!
इस की क्या वजह है..? उसने जवाब दिया....जब मै पहले
ग़ैर हाज़िर हुआ था तो मेरे घर एक बच्चा पैदा हुआ था....!!
आपने मेरी तन्खाह बढ़ा कर दी तो मै समझ गया.....
परमात्मा ने उस बच्चे के पोषण का हिस्सा भेज दिया है......
और जब दोबारा मै ग़ैर हाजिर हुआ तो मेरी माता जी
का निधन हो गया था...जब आप ने मेरी तन्खाह कम
दी तो मैने यह मान लिया की मेरी माँ अपने हिस्से का
अपने साथ ले गयीं.....
फिर मै इस तनख्वाह की ख़ातिर क्यों परेशान होऊँ
जिस का ज़िम्मा ख़ुद परमात्मा ने ले रखा है......!!
: एक खूबसूरत सोच :
अगर कोई पूछे जिंदगी में क्या खोया और क्या पाया,
तो बेशक कहना, जो कुछ खोया वो मेरी नादानी थी और जो भी पाया वो प्रभू की मेहेरबानी थी, खुबसूरत रिश्ता है मेरा और भगवान के बीच में, ज्यादा मैं मांगता. नहीं और कम वो देता नहीं..