Making Positive Changes !!!

Instead of saying "I don't know"

Say "I'll find out". 

Instead of seeing a problem for every answer,
Try seeing an answer for every problem 

Instead of saying "That's not my job",
See what has to be done and do it. 

Instead of making promises,
Make commitments 

Instead of looking at what can't be done,
Look at what can be done 

When a mistake is made, instead of saying "It wasn't my fault"
Say "I was wrong". 

Instead of side-stepping most issues,
Try making decisions 

Instead of saying "I'm not as bad as a lot of others",
Say "I'm good, but not as good as I can be". 

Instead of saying "That's the way it has always been done",
Say "There ought to be a better way". 

Instead of saying "It may be possible, but it's too difficult",
Say "It may be difficult but it's not impossible". 

Give it a try !

Don't disown your future, own it. You make your life, take it as a movie set if you like; you are the director, the main actor and the editor. How do you want the story to ensue?

Ask yourself those fundamental questions:

What am I like?
What do I want to be like?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What do I need?
What do I want?
Who could help me?
What is my plan?

Know that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. Now is an opportunity to reflect and act upon those thoughts. Changing is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

Until next time,
be conscious, flexible in your approach and make yourself happy !

How Much Fight Is In You?

"All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you." - Walt Disney

Walt Disney, who often struggled just to feed himself, had to declare bankruptcy in 1920. In 1923, he made his way to Hollywood with just $40 in his pocket. $40 and a sketchbook!

In 1928 Walt and a few friends by the names Mickey and Minnie, took the world by storm in "Steamboat Willie". Unsuspecting movie viewers were witnessing the birth of a legend! The rest is most definitely Entertainment History.

Can you imagine the flack Walt Disney must have caught when penniless, he'd sit in the corner sketching?!  No doubt he was called everything from a dreamer to a loser. Fortunately, he knew that it's not the name they call you that matters. It's the name you answer to that counts.

*** "If you can dream it, you can do it. Always remember that this whole thing was started with a dream and a mouse." - Walt Disney

The creator of an absolute empire was knocked down more than once, but he came out a winner because he never stayed down.

How about you?

How much fight is in you? Has life knocked you around - maybe even knocked you down? Are you on the ground, cowering in the corner or are you up fighting back with all that's in you?

The fight isn't over until someone's knocked out or gives up. Instead of throwing in the towel, use it to slap life on the butt with a resounding snap!

*** "It's kind of fun to do the impossible." - Walt Disney

Go do something impossible!

Far too many people have dreams they have given up on. We often blame others or outside circumstances for the fact we are not accomplishing all we desire. Granted, there may be some outside circumstances that create real limitations. However, in many cases we may be using imagined limitations as an excuse to not move forward. It can be easier to blame other people and situations as the reason we have not achieved our potential than to walk through the fear of the unknown.

Limitations appear in many ways. Experience. Money. Time. Education. You name it, it is bound to be there. One of the greatest limitations is that of the mind. Determine which obstacles are real and which ones are imagined. Which excuses have been used over and over so that you will not have to face the fear of the unknown? Once you identify your real and imagined limitations, you will be able to work with them and move forward.

Granted, there is a lot that can dampen our spirits if we allow it. However, there are many opportunities to achieve your dreams if you are willing to step outside of your comfort zone, put effort into your vision and move forward little by little.

In order to break through your boundaries you must first realize what they are. Knowing what they are allows you to take action. Look for others who may have had similar roadblocks. Find out what they did to move forward. In their strategy may be your formula for success.

Are you secretly wishing you would do something with your life other than what you are doing, but fear holds you back? If you ask most people what their greatest regret is, more times than not they will say it is what they didn't do rather than what they did.

One of the greatest gifts we can give to others and ourselves is to unlock the talents we have been blessed with and to have the courage to use them. Ask yourself, "How well do I use my gifts to contribute to the well-being of myself and others?"

Will your life be filled with regrets or will it be filled with passion?

Unity is Strength !!!

Once upon a time, there was a flock of doves that flew in search of food led by their king. One day, they had flown a long distance and were very tired. The dove king encouraged them to fly a little further. The smallest dove picked up speed and found some rice scattered beneath a banyan tree. So all the doves landed and began to eat.

Suddenly a net fell over them and they were all trapped. They saw a hunter approaching carrying a huge club. The doves desperately fluttered their wings trying to get out, but to no avail. The king had an idea. He advised all the doves to fly up together carrying the net with them. He said that there was strength in unity.

Each dove picked up a portion of the net and together they flew off carrying the net with them. The hunter looked up in astonishment. He tried to follow them, but they were flying high over hills and valleys. They flew to a hill near a city of temples where there lived a mouse who could help them. He was a faithful friend of the dove king.

When the mouse heard the loud noise of their approach, he went into hiding. The dove king gently called out to him and then the mouse was happy to see him. The dove king explained that they had been caught in a trap and needed the mouse’s help to gnaw at the net with his teeth and set them free.

The mouse agreed saying that he would set the king free first. The king insisted that he first free his subjects and the king last. The mouse understood the king’s feelings and complied with his wishes. He began to cut the net and one by one all the doves were freed including the dove king.

They all thanked the mouse and flew away together, united in their strength.

When you work together, you are stronger.

Are You the Motivator !

We're all aware of how important teamwork is and how an inspired team, working together toward a clearly defined goal, can accomplish tremendous results. But how do you get all co-workers to pull together and realize they are a vital link in a much bigger picture?

Remember that individuals make a team. Individual contributions add up to the greatter whole. Ask for the team's ideas and suggestions and base specific goals on these. Be sure each team member understands his/her role in the overall plan.

Communicate clearly. Present information in an organized, easy-to-follow way. Make it clear; communication within the group is a two-way process. Acknowledge everyone's thoughts, ideas and fears equally. And above all, be honest.

Be a good example. Maintain firm, fair and clearly understood standards. Tackle unpleasant tasks as soon as possible. If criticism is necessary, make it constructive. Keep emotions in check.

Delegate. No one can do everything. Understand which jobs don't need your personal touch and trust them to someone else. Match jobs to skills and abilities, providing necessary training and encouragement. Provide goals and guidelines.

Accept change. Discuss changes - also suggested changes - with your team thoroughly. Reassure team players that the changes are positive, clearly pointing out the benefits. Encourage all members to express their feelings about what's happening and tend to wounded egos appropriately.

Praise with specifics. Focus on performance & behavior and not on the person. Do it regularly and in a timely fashion.

भगवान् सब अछा ही करता है:

एक व्यक्ति एक दिन बिना बताए काम पर नहीं गया.....
मालिक ने,सोचा इस कि तन्खाह बढ़ा दी जाये तो यह
और दिल्चसपी से काम करेगा.....
और उसकी तन्खाह बढ़ा दी....
अगली बार जब उसको तन्खाह से ज़्यादा पैसे दिये
तो वह कुछ नही बोला चुपचाप पैसे रख लिये.....
कुछ महीनों बाद वह फिर ग़ैर हाज़िर हो गया......
मालिक को बहुत ग़ुस्सा आया.....
सोचा इसकी तन्खाह बढ़ाने का क्या फायदा हुआ
यह नहीं सुधरेगाऔर उस ने बढ़ी हुई
तन्खाह कम कर दी और इस बार उसको पहले वाली ही
तन्खाह दी......
वह इस बार भी चुपचाप ही रहा और
ज़बान से कुछ ना बोला....
तब मालिक को बड़ा ताज्जुब हुआ....
उसने उससे पूछा कि जब मैने तुम्हारे ग़ैरहाज़िर होने के बाद तुम्हारी तन्खाह बढा कर दी तुम कुछ नही बोले और आज तुम्हारी ग़ैर हाज़री पर तन्खाह
कम कर के दी फिर भी खामोश ही रहे.....!!
इस की क्या वजह है..? उसने जवाब दिया....जब मै पहले
ग़ैर हाज़िर हुआ था तो मेरे घर एक बच्चा पैदा हुआ था....!!
आपने मेरी तन्खाह बढ़ा कर दी तो मै समझ गया.....
परमात्मा ने उस बच्चे के पोषण का हिस्सा भेज दिया है......
और जब दोबारा मै ग़ैर हाजिर हुआ तो मेरी माता जी
का निधन हो गया था...जब आप ने मेरी तन्खाह कम
दी तो मैने यह मान लिया की मेरी माँ अपने हिस्से का
अपने साथ ले गयीं.....
फिर मै इस तनख्वाह की ख़ातिर क्यों परेशान होऊँ
जिस का ज़िम्मा ख़ुद परमात्मा ने ले रखा है......!!
: एक खूबसूरत सोच :
अगर कोई पूछे जिंदगी में क्या खोया और क्या पाया,
तो बेशक कहना, जो कुछ खोया वो मेरी नादानी थी और जो भी पाया वो प्रभू की मेहेरबानी थी, खुबसूरत रिश्ता है मेरा और भगवान के बीच में, ज्यादा मैं मांगता. नहीं और कम वो देता नहीं..

Fight the inside evil:

There are four yugas widely accepted in Hinduism. They are :
1.Satya yug
2.Treta yug (Ramayana)
3.Dwapara yug(Mahabharata)
4.Kal yug(Present)

In Satya yug, the fight was between two worlds (Devalok & Asuralok). Asuralok being the evil, was a different WORLD.

In Treta yug, the fight was between Rama and Ravana. Both rulers from two different COUNTRIES.

In Dwapara yug, the fight was between Pandavas and Kauravas. Both good and evil from the SAME FAMILY.

Kindly note how the evil is getting closer. For example, from a DIFFERENT WORLD to a DIFFERENT COUNTRY to the SAME FAMILY.

Now, know where is the evil in Kaliyug???

It is inside us. Both GOOD AND EVIL LIVE WITHIN. The battle is within us. Who will we give victory to, our inner goodness or the evil within??

Think, identify and fight the evil...!

Challange are must in your life:

जापान में हमेशा से ही मछलियाँ खाने का
एक ज़रुरी हिस्सा रही हैं । और ये जितनी
ताज़ी होतीं हैँ लोग उसे उतना ही पसंद करते
हैं । लेकिन जापान के तटों के आस-पास
इतनी मछलियाँ नहीं होतीं की उनसे लोगोँ
की डिमांड पूरी की जा सके । नतीजतन
मछुआरों को दूर समुंद्र में जाकर मछलियाँ
पकड़नी पड़ती हैं।जब इस तरह से मछलियाँ
पकड़ने की शुरुआत हुई तो मछुआरों के
सामने एक गंभीर समस्या सामने आई ।

वे जितनी दूर मछली पक़डने जाते उन्हें
लौटने मे उतना ही अधिक समय लगता
और मछलियाँ बाजार तक पहुँचते-पहुँचते
बासी हो जातीँ , ओर फिर कोई उन्हें खरीदना
नहीं चाहता ।इस समस्या से निपटने के लिए
मछुआरों ने अपनी बोट्स पर फ्रीज़र लगवा
लिये । वे मछलियाँ पकड़ते और उन्हें फ्रीजर
में डाल देते ।

इस तरह से वे और भी देर तक मछलियाँ
पकड़ सकते थे और उसे बाजार तक पहुंचा
सकते थे । पर इसमें भी एक समस्या आ
गयी । जापानी फ्रोजेन फ़िश ओर फ्रेश
फिश में आसनी से अंतर कर लेते और
फ्रोजेन मछलियों को खरीदने से कतराते ,
उन्हें तो किसी भी कीमत पर ताज़ी मछलियाँ
ही चाहिए होतीं ।एक बार फिर मछुआरों ने
इस समस्या से निपटने की सोची और
इस बार एक शानदार तरीका निकाला ,
.उन्होंने अपनी बड़ी – बड़ी जहाजों पर
फ़िश टैंक्स बनवा लिए ओर अब वे
मछलियाँ पकड़ते और उन्हें पानी से
भरे टैंकों मे डाल देते ।

टैंक में डालने के बाद कुछ देर तो
मछलियाँ इधर उधर भागती पर जगह
कम होने के कारण वे जल्द ही एक
जगह स्थिर हो जातीं ,और जब ये मछलियाँ
बाजार पहुँचती तो भले वे ही सांस ले रही
होतीं लकिन उनमेँ वो बात नहीं होती जो
आज़ाद घूम रही ताज़ी मछलियों मे होती ,
ओर जापानी चखकर इन मछलियों में भी
अंतर कर लेते ।

तो इतना कुछ करने के बाद भी समस्या
जस की तस बनी हुई थी।अब मछुवारे
क्या करते ? वे कौन सा उपाय लगाते कि
ताज़ी मछलियाँ लोगोँ तक पहुँच पाती ?नहीं,
उन्होंने कुछ नया नहीं किया , वें अभी भी
मछलियाँ टैंक्स में ही रखते , पर इस बार
वो हर एक टैंक मे एक छोटी सी शार्क
मछली भी ङाल देते।

शार्क कुछ मछलियों को जरूर खा जाती
पर ज्यादातर मछलियाँ बिलकुल ताज़ी
पहुंचती।ऐसा क्यों होता ? क्योंकि शार्क
बाकी मछलियों की लिए एक चैलेंज की
तरह थी। उसकी मौज़ूदगी बाक़ी मछलियों
को हमेशा चौकन्ना रखती ओर अपनी
जान बचाने के लिए वे हमेशा अलर्ट रहती।

इसीलिए कई दिनों तक टैंक में रह्ने के
बावज़ूद उनमे स्फूर्ति ओर ताजापन बना रहता।

आज बहुत से लोगों
की ज़िन्दगी टैंक मे पड़ी उन मछलियों
की तरह हो गयी है जिन्हे जगाने की लिए
कोई shark मौज़ूद नहीं है। और अगर
unfortunately आपके साथ भी ऐसा ही है
तो आपको भी आपने life में नये challenges
accept करने होंगे।
आप जिस रूटीन के आदि हों चुकें हैँ
ऊससे कुछ अलग़ करना होगा, आपको
अपना दायरा बढ़ाना होगा और एक
बार फिर ज़िन्दगी में रोमांच और नयापन
लाना होगा।

नहीं तो , बासी मछलियों की तरह आपका
भी मोल कम हों जायेगा और लोग आपसे
मिलने-जुलने की बजाय बचते नजर आएंगे।

और दूसरी तरफ अगर आपकी लाइफ
में चैलेंजेज हैँ , बाधाएं हैँ तो उन्हें कोसते
मत रहिये , कहीं ना कहीं ये आपको fresh
and lively बनाये रखती हैँ , इन्हेँ
accept करिये, इन्हे overcome करिये
और अपना  तेज बनाये रखिये।

Responce are always well thought than reaction:

A beautiful speech by Sundar Pichai - an IIT-MIT Alumnus , Global Head of Android and Google Chrome:

The cockroach theory for In development
    
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and  sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice,she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach
responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.

I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.
A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.
Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!,,,,,,,

Really beautiful

वक्त तो लगता है:

"पानी को बर्फ में बदलने में वक्त लगता है ,
ढले हुए सूरज को निकलने में वक्त लगता है !.

थोड़ा धीरज रख, थोड़ा और जोर लगाता रह,
किस्मत के जंग लगे दरवाजे को खुलने में वक्त लगता है !.

कुछ देर रुकने के बाद फिर से चल पड़ना दोस्त,
हर ठोकर के बाद संभलने में वक्त लगता है !.

बिखरेगी फिर वही चमक तेरे वजूद से तू महसूस करना,
टूटे हुए मन को संवरने में थोड़ा वक्त लगता है !.

जो तूने कहा कर दिखायेगा रख यकीन ,
गरजे जब बादल तो बरसने में वक्त लगता है !.

खुशी आ रही है और आएगी ही, इन्तजार कर ,
जिद्दी दुख को टलने में थोड़ा सा वक्त तो लगता है !!

वक्त तो लगता है:

"पानी को बर्फ में बदलने में वक्त लगता है ,
ढले हुए सूरज को निकलने में वक्त लगता है !.

थोड़ा धीरज रख, थोड़ा और जोर लगाता रह,
किस्मत के जंग लगे दरवाजे को खुलने में वक्त लगता है !.

कुछ देर रुकने के बाद फिर से चल पड़ना दोस्त,
हर ठोकर के बाद संभलने में वक्त लगता है !.

बिखरेगी फिर वही चमक तेरे वजूद से तू महसूस करना,
टूटे हुए मन को संवरने में थोड़ा वक्त लगता है !.

जो तूने कहा कर दिखायेगा रख यकीन ,
गरजे जब बादल तो बरसने में वक्त लगता है !.

खुशी आ रही है और आएगी ही, इन्तजार कर ,
जिद्दी दुख को टलने में थोड़ा सा वक्त तो लगता है !!